Thursday, December 29, 2016

It's OFFICIAL!!!

"Everybody needs someone beside them, 
shining like a lighthouse from the sea."

- Needtobreathe -


Merry Christmas from Macedonia!

We're so excited to tell you that Lighthouse of Hope is officially an NGO (non-governmental organization) in Macedonia!  Our paperwork was filed and accepted the week before Christmas and our organization has been realized!

And what an awesome time it was - as is always the case, God's timing was perfect!  The same day we filed the paperwork, we were blessed to participate in our first activity!  We were asked by a family from Skopje to be translators when they met their new daughter for the first time.  It was really a very cool experience.

The Van Niekerk Family has a beautiful adoption story - complete with the struggles and tears that came from an unrealized adoption, to the excitement and anticipation of being matched with a completely different little girl and meeting her for the first time and taking her home the very same day!

We met with Esther and Dani and their three wonderful kids on the morning of their adoption. Everyone was really excited and anxious. We spent several minutes waiting for paperwork to be completed and their daughter to be ready and then they brought her into the room.  She was so precious.  Because of the adoption laws in Macedonia, the family was not permitted to know her birth name, so all they knew was "M".  She was nervous, her eyes wide as she took in all of the new faces and sights in the office of the orphanage.  Their 7 year old son pulled on my hand. I looked down and he said, "She's beautiful. Because she has googly eyes."  He was right.  She was beautiful!

The family spent a few minutes asking questions and being made aware of her schedule and a little of her history.  And then the nurses gave her to her new mother, smiled, and said goodbye.  Little "M" was carried into that room an orphan, and 20 minutes later, sweet Chereni (whose name means "star" in Romani) was carried out a daughter. 

Zoran and I were so blessed to be a small part of that day!  It reminded us that we are here for a purpose - and we know exactly what it is.  To make orphans into sons and daughters.  To give them hope and love, and to show them the truth of who they are.  They are precious.  Each and every one.

Please join us as we pray for the Van Niekerk family, as they transition from a family of 5 to a family of 6 - and for sweet Chereni as she learns what it is to be loved by a family.


So, what's next for Lighthouse of Hope?  Several things!
  • We would like to start volunteering at the local orphanage in January, after the holidays (Orthodox Christmas is January 7th).  
  • We also plan to start working on our NGO website
  • We want to start a quarterly email newsletter, to let you know what's happening and how you can be involved
  • We are praying about several pieces of property as potential sites for the (future) Lighthouse of Hope group homes 
We have a great team on the board with Lighthouse of Hope and we are excited about the future!  Thanks for reading and for your continued prayers!

Jen & Zo (and the kids)




Friday, July 8, 2016

A Long Time Coming

"I'm baaaaacccckkk" 
Jack Torrence, The Shining

Wow!  I just realized my last blog post was at the beginning of February.  That wasn't intentional. (Well, the February blog post was. But the absence wasn't.)

A lot has happened in the past five months.  For those of you who, like me, have some struggles reading long, drawn out blogs, I'll start with an abbreviated version. If you make it through that, and are still halfway interested, I'll go into more detail in the second half of the blog.

I've titled the first half:  "Top 10 Bullet Points of Interest from the Past Five Months"  (catchy, isn't it?!?)  I'll count down, much like the popular late-night television host from years ago.

10 - The number of day my parents visited with us in Macedonia

9 - The number of times I've told people "I'm dead," instead of "I'm tired" in the Macedonian language (nine is the number from the past two weeks, not all of the months combined.)  

8 - Full time employees Zo now has at the Karpa branch office in Bitola, Macedonia.

7 - Can you believe this is how many weeks we have until school starts??!?!  (Several big changes happening this year in the Naskov schooling plan)

6 - Number of business trips Zo took from mid-February to mid-June.  

5 - Weeks Nattie spent in America 

4 - Kids had birthdays March-June.  (Zo also had a birthday, but that would've made it 5 birthdays, and we are on the #4)

3 - The number of songs the tour guide sang to us during our 30 minute boat tour of the springs at Lake Ohrid.  

2 - Times I survived crossing a border without Zo.

1 - less gallbladder in our family

There you go! You're caught up!

If you are easily bored, now is the time to go back to scrolling through memes or watching metal rust, because here comes the extended version, complete with pictures and not-so-witty commentary. If you're still interested, grab a can of Coca Cola, sit back and enjoy the ride!

10 - My parents visited Macedonia, for the very first time, at the end of June.  We had an awesome visit - even with all the excitement (see #1).  We went to the Bitola zoo, had dinner in Greece, visited Lake Ohrid, walked through downtown Skopje and the old market (and even got to see riot police encircling a group of very buff skinheads - still not sure what that was about).  We also ate dinner at all of our favorite restaurants, had burek so meso at the best shop in an ally off of Shirok Sokak, and shopped in all of the little places we have lovingly given our own names to - like the Green Hill Store, Lowe's, and Food Lion.  We were so sad to see them go, and are already dreaming of the next trip (which will be longer, I can assure you!)

9 - Ok, for what it's worth, it's a honest mistake.  "tired" is "umoren" (ooh-more-en)  "dead" is "umren" (oom-ren).  You can't blame me, right?  Well, the neighbors get a kick out of it.  So there's that. And I realize one is the right way - I just can't remember which one when it's time to say it.

8 - We're excited about how well the Karpa Europe team has come together.  They even had a "team picnic" last month that they were kind enough to invite us to! :D  lol   Great group of people.

7 - So, homeschool has not worked the way we had planned since moving overseas.  It's just not a good fit for everyone in the family, at this point. We've prayed, looked at options, and fretted a bit (just being honest). But we are excited about how we believe this year will be set up. Here's the lowdown (at this point - who knows what it will look like in 7 weeks - haha):

Nattie - will finish last year's schoolwork through Classical Conversations (she got the most behind because she was the one who was needed the most to help with the move and transition. We knew this would happen and had planned for it ahead of time).  Beginning in January, she will start at a private, online school.

Aleks - will start high school (9th grade) at a private, online school. He's looking forward to it, and so am I!

Joe - will continue to homeschool with me.  We will be changing some of the curriculum we are using, to better fit it to his personality and learning style and challenges.

Malachi - September 1st, he will begin 1st grade at the Macedonian public, one-room schoolhouse in our village. Funny fact.  The "school" has 4 students.  Two of them are from Australia and don't speak Macedonian.  One of them (Malachi) is from America and doesn't speak Macedonian. And one of them is from Macedonia and doesn't speak any English.  LOL!!!  To be a fly on the wall.  Thankfully, the teacher is a 30something man, who appears to have a great personality for teaching children and speaks perfect English (and Macedonian, I assume. Haha)  Malachi is really excited!  He's going from a homeschool of four students (his brothers and sister) to a public school of four students.  And it's walking distance from our house.

6 - I actually have no idea how many business trips Zo took, but I am sure it was at least six.  He's been to Mexico, America, Switzerland, and Germany (some of them several times).  Thankfully, he's home until September.  We are soaking in the Tato-time!

5 - Nattie went to the States at the end of May and stayed until the end of June. She had a great time.  She spent time with family in Florida, rode horses with her best friend in North Carolina, and had her birthday in America.  She even had her first-ever fall off a horse while she was there - complete with a trip to Urgent Care (thankfully, nothing was broken).  She said it was interesting to come back to Macedonia and see things in a different light.

4 - Birthdays galore!  Nattie turned 16, Aleks 14, Joe 10, and Malachi "was 6 but now he is 7" (that's how he tells anyone who asks him how old he is.)  Zo also had a birthday.  I'm the only one left and I can't wait, because I have two people I love like crazy cakes, coming to visit me for my 41st!

3 - One of the things we did, while my parents were here, was take a day trip to Ohrid.  It was beautiful. The weather was perfect, the drive was full of giggles, and we took a boat trip around the springs with a delightful man named Nikola (which is the most common name for a man in Macedonia).  He sang to us, told us all kinds of "facts" about the springs and Ohrid, and showed us the books he has written about his experience of 10+ years rowing the tour boat on the springs. (Of course, we bought them).  He was also an excellent photographer of rural Macedonia.  Check him out if you're ever in the area.  www.nikoturs.com

2 - While my parents were visiting, I decided to be all kinds of adventurous and take them for dinner in Greece. So, I piled the four kids, my parents, and myself into a 9 passenger rental van and headed for the border.  All was going splendidly, until we actually got to the border.  On the Macedonia side, I was informed that we were supposed to register my parents at the local police station within 24 hours of their arrival (this was on day 8 of their 10 day trip) and that there would be "penalties" for not having done that.  And there was a brief moment of no one being sure if they could actually leave Macedonia for dinner in Greece, since they hadn't registered.  Thankfully, after 10 minutes of me doing my best to not say anything wrong and apologizing and smiling as much as possible, he let us leave, while assuring us there would be "no problem" with us returning after we ate. Phew!

Now to the Greek border.  I had concentrated for an entire 10 minutes (on the Macedonian side) and that's about my limit, so I made a rookie mistake.  The conversation went something like this.

Him:  "Where are you going?"

Me: "Florina, for dinner."  (I was patting myself on the back for remembering the correct name to call the city, since the Macedonians and Greeks don't agree what it should be called, when the next question came and I wasn't ready for it)

Him:  "After dinner, where are you going?"

Me:  "Back home. To Macedonia."  (DANG IT ALL!!! I knew the minute I said it, I had messed up.)

Him:  laughing, but not the hahaha laugh.  The "stupid, stupid woman - how oh how could you be so foolish" laugh) And then the slow head shake.  "Do not say that name. It is FYROM. Enjoy your dinner."  And he handed me the passports.  Phew, again.  

Oh the joys of living in a part of the world where you're never quite sure how to not anger the people in power (whether it be a little power or a lot of power).  But we made it out (and back in again) and dinner was worth it all!  If you're ever in Florina, Greece, check out Terpsi Restaurant. It is amazing!

1 - less gallbladder in our family.  You'll have to wait a few days for that one.  That's a blog post all it's own.  But here's a sneak peek:

Congrats! You made it to the end of the "I'm baaaaaack!" blog post. I hope you had as much fun reading it as we did, living it!  I've missed you all so much!  And this little blog of ours.

Blessings from our family to yours. Until I write again....



Thursday, February 4, 2016

Oleveni or bust!!!

Home is the nicest word there is. 
Laura Ingalls Wilder


See that pretty little home, shining brightly in the center of the picture????  Well, last Thursday, it became ours!  YAY!  We bought at house!
This is sweet Nattie-girl, unlocking the gate for the first time!
We are so excited! Let me share with you a little back story, because often times, that is the most interesting part....

We have been looking at this house since last October. For several reasons (the biggest being that it's not a "legalized" home), we thought it wouldn't work out. Then, in December, the Macedonian government passed a law allowing a grace period for non-registered homes to become legalized. We immediately filed the paperwork and began the process of legalization, and we began pursuing the purchase of the home (again).

We didn't know much history about the house, other than it's been empty for many, many years, and the man who built it for his family is deceased, and ownership had been transferred to a distant relative, living in Australia. Last Thursday, when Zo signed the paperwork, the great nephew of the original owner (Nikola) shared with Zo this history.

Nikola and his wife (who were born in 1911 and 1914, respectively) had five children. They lived in the village of Oleveni (where our home is located), in a older homestead. After WWII, when the former Yugoslavia was still reeling from the ravages of war, Nikola packed up what he could carry, kissed his wife and children goodbye, and ran for the Greek border, in search of a better life. Let that sink in.  He was a refugee.

At the border with Greece, he was shot at, and then made to live in a refugee camp for two months before he was granted passage to Australia.  Imagine his wife's fear as she waited to hear from her husband. Imagine the children - unsure of their father's fate.

Nikola made it safely to Australia and was granted asylum with a refugee status.  He then began working, so that he could send for his wife and five children. I don't know how long it took him, but eventually, he was able to save enough money for his family to join him in Australia.  And there they stayed, for almost 25 years.  But their hearts were in Macedonia, so when it was safe to do so, in the late 70's Nikola and his wife returned.  And they built our house.

It has been amazing to find their old passports, showing their trips to Australia and back. The house even has family pictures (most of which make the kids laugh - imagine 1970's Eastern Europe family photos). The beauty and love that was built into that home has already been a blessing to us, and we haven't even moved in yet.  I love that God cares about the details (as my friend, Kassie, reminded me).  That we arrived in Macedonia last Fall, were immediately moved to help the refugees crossing through Greece, while seeking a place to put down roots and establish as our home.  And God saw fit to lead us to a house that was built by a refugee.  For his family. For their life. With hope for a future. Wow!  See why we are excited?


For those of you who are interested in knowing more about the area, here are a couple of facts about Oleveni:


  • Oleveni is a village that is 5 miles outside of Bitola, Macedonia and about 8 miles from the border with Greece.
  • In 2002, the population of Oleveni was 157.
  • The artifacts and prayer chapels that we posted pictures of two weeks ago, are in the village.
  • When we move in, our address will be:  The Family Naskov, Oleveni Village, Macedonia.  Hahahaha!  I guess the mailman will just figure out which house is ours! 
As a side note, but of equal importance in establishing our life in Macedonia.... Karpa of Europe (Zo's company) hired it's first four software employees (two started this past Monday and two more will start next week).  We also hired a office/life assistant for Karpa. She started Monday as well.  Which was perfect timing, since we have a TON to do to get ready to move in and get the business up and running. She's part-time translator and building contractor with me and part-time office administrator with Zo.  Never a dull moment around here! 

So now you know why it's been a little quiet from the Naskov front, as of late.  We have been crazy busy!  I can't wait to show you more pictures, as we make progress in getting our new home move-in ready!  

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Naskov Family Update (hopefully a tad more exciting than the title implies)


"HAPPY, HAPPY, JOY, JOY"
- Ren & Stimpy


So many people (at least two or three) have asked how we are doing, as a family, so I thought this blog post would be better suited to give a quick update....To help me not chase rabbits, I'll organize the blog by person - oldest to youngest.

OH CAPTAIN, MY CAPTAIN:  Zo has been hard at work, securing additional office space, so that he can hire the first 2-3 employees for the Karpa (European branch), a task that has proven to be more time-consuming and difficult than we ever anticipated.

He has also been invaluable as "Translator Extraordinaire" for the rest of us. He rescues me when I "bite off more than I can chew" (at stores, doc appointments, phone calls, border crossings, etc), which is a regular occurrence.

He is the strong and steady for our family of 8 (if you count the dog and the cat), who are constantly confused (yes, the dog and cat are confused as well) - whether it be language, culture, new foods, getting lost, or yelling border agents (obviously that was a traumatic event for me, since I'm in the first section and have already mentioned it twice).

THE SQUIRREL:  I am working (though not as diligently as I wish) on acquiring the Macedonian language as fast as possible.  This is not as easy as I thought it would be - I blame it on my 40th birthday last August.  Maybe if I had started when I was 39......

Zo is grateful for any language progression I make; however, I think the shop owners are protesting.  They seem to prefer my broken Macedonian.  It makes for lots of laughs.  A perfect example happened a couple of weeks back.

I got a hankerin' for some bar-b-que, and since I had recently acquired a crockpot from an American moving back to the States, I decided Pork Sandwiches would do just the trick.  Now, if I were back home, I would've gone to Ingles and grabbed a Boston Butt in the meat department.  I wasn't sure how to say "Boston" and I wasn't sure that the pork here would be of the "Boston" variety (I need to Google where that name comes from), so I decided just to ask the butcher at the local supermarket for a "pork butt".  Sounds simple enough, right?  
I waited until everyone else had finished at the meat counter, so as to minimize my embarrassment.  I politely said (in broken Macedonian), "Hello, can I please have a pork butt?"  However, unfortunately, the only word I know for "butt" translates as "a$#".  He looked at me quizzically and replied, "Excuse me?"  Gathering all of the confidence I could muster, I did what I make fun of people for doing to me when I can't understand their language - I said it louder.  "CAN I PLEASE HAVE A PORK A#*???????"  Ok, at this point, the dude lost it.  He got hysterical.  Completely, unashamedly (for him) hysterical. And much to my horror, he decided to call the women from the deli counter over, so he could tell them what I wanted.  And then he started grabbing various body parts on his own body, asking which kind I wanted (which sounds a little more risque than it actually was).  So now I have a couple of deli women standing there, laughing at me, while the butcher does some kind of Justin Timberlake dance number.  Good times. I grabbed the first hunk of pork that the guy finally showed me, and made a beeline for the cash register.
I got to the car, related the story to Zo, who was wondering what was taking so long.  He seemed to find it just as funny as the butcher did.  Apparently, the piece of pork I was looking for is not called a "pork butt" in Macedonia, making my poor, profane translation that much funnier.  
Three weeks later, I'm walking through the grocery store, and I hear someone yell in Macedonian, "Hey pork a#*!!!!"  I look over, and there is the butcher, waving and smiling.  Wow.  That was some kind of special!  I don't think I've ever been called that before - and I would probably be okay with never being called that again!  

Moving on.....I am also trying to figure out how to homeschool in a culture that is more relationship-based than project-oriented.  So all "quick trips to someone's house or to the store" end up being 3-4 hour events.  That's a new thing and honestly, I haven't figured out how to navigate those waters just yet.

C3PO (inside joke):  Nattie is adjusting well to life in Macedonia.  She has made friends with a girl named Vesna, and has enjoyed getting to know her better and they've hung out a couple of times.

She has also been taking Roxy on walks around the city - since the two of them are having the hardest time adjusting to not being able to "run wild and free".  They are both looking forward (Nattie says Roxy specifically told her so) to finding a place out in a village somewhere, to run around.





BLOB FISH:  If you ask Aleks what he likes most about Macedonia, his immediate response is: THE FOOD!!!!  He loves it. All of it.  Fresh onions, grilled mushrooms, bread, cucumbers...the list goes on and on...

He has found the local "American Corner" where he can go a couple of times a month and play board games with local teens, where they can work on their English (and he can pretend he's working on his Macedonian).

We have found him an orthodontist that he says reminds him of 1/2 Dedo (Zo's dad) and 1/2 Professor Snake from Harry Potter. Aleks has had "fun" learning the difference between dentists in America and dentists in Macedonia.  (You'll have to ask him, next time you see him - it's quite a hoot to hear him describe it).

JOEJOE BEAN:  This is my "city life lovin'" kid!!!  He loves EVERYTHING about city life.  He enjoys all of the people out on the street, watching the crazy drivers fit through impossibly tight spaces, street dogs, corner fast food places, the late night schedule everyone keeps here, and everything else that makes living in the city what it is.

He's doing well in Macedonian class.  He has 90% of the alphabet memorized (there are 31 letters in the Macedonian alphabet), and knows all of the greetings and anything related to food or ordering at restaurants.



DRAGAN:  Malachi is a name that no one understands over here, so after we try 3 or 4 times unsuccessfully, to tell people what his name is, we usually just say "Dragan" (his middle name) and they are satisfied.  Dragan is a Macedonian name, so no one here thinks it's strange - unlike in America.

Malachi Dragan is absorbing the language like a sponge, but he only lets it out when we least expect it (and didn't realize he knew the word).

He loves the food, like his brother Aleks, but he reminds us at least 3 times a week that he's "still an American!!!!"



Our "TEAM" UPDATE:

  • We are still working on finding a permanent housing arrangement. An explanation of what all that takes could fill 12 blog posts.
  • We have begun our first steps toward connecting with the local government orphanage (as a matter of fact, we are planning our second visit on Friday of this week)
  • We are digging celebrating two Christmas' (ours and the Orthodox version on January 7), as well as New Year's Eve (when Grandfather Ice "Dedo Mraz" visits) and Kolede (which is today and is when they have bonfires all over the city and the kids go trick-or-treating).  So basically, from December 24 to January 8, Santa Claus will be at our house 3 times and we will go trick-or-treating.  Sugar overload, anyone?!?!?
  • We are still helping at the refugee camp in Gevgelija, though a crazy illness I had (which would be way TMI for me to explain) sidelined us for 3 weeks.  
2015 was an absolute whirlwind and there are many mornings when I wake up and think, "Do we really live on the other side of the world?!?!?"  It usually takes about 30 seconds for me to hear the Muslim call to prayer from the local mosque or smell burning wood seeping through the windows, for me to get the answer.  

Needless to say, we are crazy-excited about 2016 and can't wait to see what God has in store for us! We love you and miss you all!!!  Thank you for your encouragement and prayers for our family.

As a fun post-script, I asked the kids to give me three words to describe Macedonia for the blog.  These were their (almost exact) responses:

  • Nattie:   city, mountains, insanedrivers (she told me that "insane drivers" could be one word, as long as I made sure everyone understood she wasn't saying "insaned rivers")
  • Aleks:  social, peer pressure, enjoyment (apparently the concept of THREE words is difficult for my children)
  • Joe: "best place I've ever been in my life", "amazing", "great food" (he asked me several times to explain what I meant by "three words" and then said, "oh, I get it!" and gave me his answers)
  • Malachi:  gevrek, burek so meso, pizza, "and I know it's number four, but I have to say pileshki prsti, too" (his are all food-related)

MERRY CHRISTMAS and HAPPY NEW YEAR from BITOLA, MACEDONIA!!!!